Bloggrrl has an interesting post about writing w/out inhibition on her site today. She talks about how her semi-anonymity allows her to feel free to write; and, how when people she knows in real life read her writing she worries about coming across as a “passive aggressive bitch” on her blog.
I feel her pain – I’ve been going through some of this recently on Adorkable Grrl. Specifically, because of this post and this post. I have had a plethora of my guy friends asking me (in a serious tone) if they were the one who I had a dream of kissing; and, a bunch of gossipy friends inquiring as to the identity of the snarky friend who was pissing me off.
I find the narcissism of some of the people I know in real life amusing. First of all, I generally use names in the post if I want people to know who I’m talking about. If I don’t use a name, there is probably a reason why. (For example, due to my “non-committed” status and the fact that I socialize with several different guys on a casual basis, I don’t want them all to know that I’ve been dreaming of kissing one man in particular. In the case of the snarky friend, that post is actually rhetorical and about multiple people I know… ) I find it amusing that I generally write very openly – with no fear of the information I post being used against me – and, that isn’t enough. What really concerns people is if they are the topic of a blog post where I don’t name who I’m talking about.
Of course, those people (and, you know who you are) aren’t ones who would ask me not to post about them on my blog… Noooo… no. Because, people who ask not to be mentioned in my writing don’t get mentioned in my writing. I’m respectful of my friendships, after all. The people who inquire are the social networking attention whores who are dying for someone to recognize them – no matter if it’s positive or negative – in some way, somewhere…
It’s amusing.
Here’s the net: I promise you that if I’m posting about you and I use your name on this blog (either in a positive or negative light) that the topic is something I have already discussed with you in person. And, if I post about something where I don’t use a name, don’t flatter yourself in thinking it’s you… if it were you and I wanted you to know it was you, I’d tell you.
This post sounds really cranky and somewhat narcissistic in it’s own right, doesn’t it? Meh. Not enough coffee, blogging from my most boring class… lots of self-involved emails today from people I know who think that everything I think, say or do is somehow about them.
I need to find some geek goodness to post.
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perhaps, Katie-girl, you should consider writing in multiple blogs – like I have been struggling to do. I have one for my personal posts – where I talk about who had sex with and how many orgasms I had (because dude I’m sleeping with knows nothing about that blog) then the other one… where I an write unabashedly, yet cautiously, with anonymity. Dude I’m sleeping with can read this one and feel as if his secrets are safe.
It’s a pain in the ass, but it seems to work.
Luv u.
Yeah, I could KayJay – but, then again I really don’t care enough about the narcissistic people who want to know if I’m writing about them to do as such…
It’s just typical attention whore behavior which amuses me.
And, I do have a super-secret journal that no one ever reads… granted, I rarely post on it anymore (so busy)… it is there, though.
I don’t care about anonymity – I’m kinda into the put it all out there for people to examine type thing – that way I know when people respond to my writing that they are responding to who I really am.
No illusions, etc.
Eh. You know who that post was directed to, anyhow…
Narcissism is as narcissism does.